Mates, I’ve a query for you: Do you ever dread saying no to your college students since you’re nervous they could have a full on meltdown?
I get you, I’ve been there too.
Making an attempt to say no to a baby with out having them throw a mood tantrum is a whoooole lot of labor.
In easier phrases, it’s onerous.
However as you understand when you’ve been listening to the podcast for some time, it’s not unattainable!
Each preschool classroom downside has an answer. Sure, even this one.
And to debate this, the sensible Dr. Carolyn Bobb-Inexperienced is again on the podcast for a second episode of the Conduct Bites collection.
Right now, she’ll be sharing with us why these meltdowns occur, easy methods to stop them, and what to do in case one among your college students decides to go full Hulk anyway.
Are you prepared?
Let’s dive in!
Why Kids Have Meltdowns When Instructed No!
The quick reply? Kids hate being informed “no” just because which means they gained’t get what they need.
The lengthy reply? Most children have never learned how to handle rejection, so after they hear “no,” they only don’t perceive easy methods to behave and so they have a meltdown.
And that is comprehensible. In any case, if nobody has taught you easy methods to cope with the phrase “no,” you find yourself coping with it one of the best ways you know the way. And for little youngsters, which means having a full on meltdown in the midst of the classroom.
Kids even have meltdowns upon listening to “no” as a result of that’s how they get the eye they need from their lecturers, mother and father, caregivers, and so on… If each time they begin kicking and screaming they get what they need, they’ll simply maintain doing it.
By giving in, we’ve informed the kid “It’s okay so that you can behave this fashion, after I let you know “no” and also you behave this fashion, I’ll provide you with what you need.” Sure, most of us find yourself reinforcing this habits with out even noticing.
Why We Must Educate Our College students to Deal With Their Feelings or The best way to Stop Meltdowns within the Classroom
Kids behave the best way that they assume both is appropriate or will get them the result that they need. That’s the primary motive they’ve meltdowns and mood tantrums once we say “no” to them.
And as a way to cease this habits, issues have to alter within the preschool classroom. Sadly, we don’t take sufficient time as professionals to show kids easy methods to cope with their feelings. Nevertheless, we have to show by instance. Telling a baby they’ll’t behave that means will not be sufficient, we’ve got to really put within the work and educate them what to do when somebody tells them “no.”
If we begin being strategic about this with our youngsters from the time that they’re toddlers, and educate them how to reply to several types of issues after they begin exhibiting unacceptable behaviors, most of these tantrums will probably be minimize out.
The best way to Say “No” With out Saying “No”
Numerous early childhood lecturers would possibly really feel like they’ll’t say “no” to their college students in case they throw a tantrum. Or as a result of their director informed them to not. Or just because they assume the phrase “no” has an excessive amount of of a damaging connotation for use within the preschool classroom.
However, there are really methods you may say “no” with out utilizing the phrase.
You possibly can clarify to the kid why they’ll’t do what they need to do. For instance, if a child desires to play with sharp scissors within the classroom, don’t simply inform them “no.” As an alternative, you may go together with one thing extra alongside this sentence: “These scissors look fairly sharp, proper? You would possibly damage your self when you play with them.”
You can too supply the kid an alternative choice. Going with the identical instance above, you may say “These scissors are a bit too harmful to play with. How about you play with this as a substitute? See? It’s simply as enjoyable!”
Saying “no” to a baby with none clarification or a special possibility is a surefire means for them to have a meltdown, so it’s at all times finest not to make use of that phrase by itself.
What else are you able to do as a substitute of claiming “no?” Carolyn and I dive deeper into that within the episode above, so make certain to present it a hearken to be taught extra!
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